Lately there’s been some comments on this site from some pretty ticked off job seekers. After sending thank you notes time and again and never hearing even a peep back – adding insult to injury as they wait to get an actual job offer – they are understandably fed up with the whole hiring process.
And while I totally get how frustrating this is for them, the solution some have come up with makes me sad. They have decided not to send thank-you notes anymore after an interview until they get that elusive offer. At that point, they say, they’ll be happy to send a thank you note or anything else. But until then, no more notes. I’m thinking “No offer, no thank you!” t-shirts would sell big.
As one job seeker put it:
“The next time that I have interviews on-site, I will do as I always do, which is smile, shake hands and say thank you at the end of each interview. And, no more thank you notes. I have struggled over thank you notes too many times, only to be disappointed when I receive no acknowledgement…”
Again…I get why this person feels this way. Job search is a demoralizing process that makes you feel like you are shouting into the wind. (I cleaned that up.)
But please don’t let a soulless process keep you from putting out your best effort each and every time. Some places are actually forbidden by the HR team from answering. I’ve worked in areas like that. But it doesn’t mean they didn’t notice.
And it’s not just thank you notes. It’s how you approach each and every interview. Is it with hope or is it with a watchful eye just waiting to be dumped, so that they never really get to see the best you…and you don’t get that one chance to find a job you might truly love. (A little like dating.)
I know it sometimes feels better, at least on one level, to proceed with caution to avoid feeling hurt. But if you do that, you’ll never get the prize you really want. And you will just wind up building on any hurt you already have.
Hard as it is, PLEASE just give it your all every time – as if you were starring in your very own stage show with a fresh audience waiting to see YOU, truly hoping you’ll be great. And in a way you are starring in a stage show…it’s called “Your Next Job!”