I so appreciate when readers write to tell us about their hard-won interview experiences – from surviving the horrible interview itself to the seemingly endless post-interview wait to the sweet taste of an actual job offer. Chantey wrote us earlier to tell of some truly awful interview experiences. She made it clear that learning to deal with reality and getting on with interviews in a positive way is important. But she also added:
“Sometimes, you just need to hate the world and maybe throw a chair (alone in your own home of course.)”
I so get that, Chantey. Anger is real and sites like this can be a great safe place to express that anger. But of course anger won’t get you the job. Perseverance and determination will. Even when you can’t see it, Chantey reminds us hope (and a job offer) can come whistling around the corner at any time. The toughest part is that it feels like nothing until it’s something.
With Chantey’s permission, here in her own inspirational words are what she wants you to know about interviews and hope:
Update! I thought I’d share an update with everyone here in hopes that it will inspire someone. If you scroll up to my previous comments (see links below), you can see my story about my horrible experience with searching for a job for two years. Everything has changed for the better.
First, I got into graduate school and I’m now double majoring in finance; the very thing I wanted to do upon graduating from undergrad. Then, I finally got the bank job I wanted with the company that I wanted. It’s amazing how perseverance and determination can make things happen. It took a very long time but I finally got where I wanted.
Those of you still looking for employment, or anything else to happen for you in life… DO. NOT. GIVE. UP.
Plenty of days I felt like I was just sinking into darkness no matter how hard I tried to swim. Then out of nowhere, a lifeline! Please know that there is a break out there for you somewhere. It’s not always visible, but it happens with determination and persistence. Of course, I still have to pass my 90 days on the job, so I’m still on eggshells, but this time, I think everything is going to work out for me.
Websites like this are golden because the day I wrote my previous post, I was upset, frustrated, and sooooooooooo angry. I needed this place to vent because I felt like no one else quite understood my pain. Sharing my success story is my way of saying thank you all for the outlet. Thank you all so very much for listening and responding.
Congratulations Chantey!! Not only did you get the job, but you used this opportunity (yes…times of limbo like this can be an opportunity) to take a strong self-affirming step like going back to school. Actions like this can shift your personal energy as well as move your career forward.
When we feel stuck in our job search…it shows. When we take control and move things forward…that shows too.
I wish you all the best Chantey. Thank you so much for sharing this with us!
Chantey’s earlier comments:
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