Dear Work Coach,
Well I didn’t get the job. Feeling pretty darned upset about it. But the HR was good and informed me about it in good time. Well…can’t begin to tell u how insecure I am feeling! 
This is the first time I have been rejected in a job interview. Guess I needed it. Sigh!!!
Phoenix
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Hi Phoenix!
I’m so sorry you didn’t get it. At least, unlike many companies, they let you know. Not much consolation I’m sure – but on the positive side, you aren’t in limbo any more. 
As for your first interview rejection…it’s actually a good thing to have that under your belt. From day one, I was good at interviewing and have gotten many exciting jobs in my lifetime. But I also got rejected. So what? A talented person like you who is good at follow-through and clearly interviews well, will get plenty of job offers. And seriously…if they didn’t think you were right for them, then they are NOT right for you. So it probably saved you a painful experience. (Other than the rejection, of course.)
Right out of grad school I interviewed with the Senior Vice President of a major New York bank. He asked me if I’d ever failed at anything. Cocky young thing that I was, I smiled and said “Not that I can think of.” And he told me “Too bad. It’s how we learn and grow. People who never experience failure have never risked enough.”
If you never fail, you never risked enough. So congratulations on going for what you wanted and let this be the thing that spurs you on to get what you really want. That’s the real key to success. It’s not about any one job…it’s about how you handle each step of the journey.
I wish you much luck, Phoenix. I mean…look at what you call yourself. No stinkin’ rejection can keep you down!
Ronnie Ann
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In case you’re curious, you can read Phoenix’s original May 15, 2008 comment and my response here:
After the Job Interview: Why Haven’t They Called Me Yet?
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Thanks, Ronnie Ann you have really help me going trough this long process of looking for a job, getting rejected, and keep looking. Or looking for a job, rejecting the offer and keep looking. But I am really trying to keep going by reading this stories because I am at the point of loosing it.
Hopefully something good will come sooner than later.
Best regards,
Faria
Oh Faria…I understand so well. I’ve been there myself – many times – when it seems like nothing is ever going to happen until you want to scream. And it makes me nuts!!! But with job search as with anything else, it feels like nothing until it’s something. And there’s just no way to make it move faster than it is going to take.
So please hang in and know you will get a job offer…keep telling yourself that in the mirror every day – and smile. And then bring that energy with you on your next interview!
All my best to you, Faria!!!
~ Ronnie Ann