Comments on: We’re Responsible for Our Own Work Relationships

By: Ronnie Ann

Ronnie Ann — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 19:41:16 +0000

Thanks Jaimoti! Appreciate your kind words and recommendations to friends. The best kind of compliment. Smart to move on. I wish you much luck. Just curious…have you called them? If not…at this point nothing lost by a polite call and you might remind them how wonderful you are! Who knows…they could even have a new job you’re just right for. Best of luck!

~ Ronnie Ann

By: Jaimoti

Jaimoti — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 17:35:18 +0000

What can I say, I found your website a couple of weeks ago after looking for an answer on the internet for: Why aren’t they calling me? What is taking them so long? etc… And I found your website. Now I read this blog and I find that I am missing a couple of things. Great advice, and so far I have already recommended your site to about 5 of my friends. Thanks a lot. Oh, and, they still haven’t called me back and it has been 5 weeks since my last interview, but thanks to your advice I am letting it go and I have continued with my job search.

By: Ronnie Ann

Ronnie Ann — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 22:09:52 +0000

Hi Jacqui!

Thank you so much for your kind words. I write for folks like you. Yes…if everyone decided to follow these simple ideas, the workplace would be a much better place.

I like to think it was time for you to move on anyway. But you’ll never forget what you read and it will allow you to start fresh in your next job, helping you create it differently from the git go. Now won’t that be fun?

Best of luck! Thanks again for writing this. And please let us know how your search is going.

~ Ronnie Ann

By: Jacqui

Jacqui — Sat, 29 May 2010 11:04:55 +0000

Wow – I have just found your website and my mind is buzzing from the experience!
I wish I had found it before I resigned from a position that I loved. It was a very strange experience and one I had not come across in 20 years of working for someone else. I felt alone in what I was experiencing and could not get my head around the situation. I think if I had read this and some of your other posts – particularly the one in the art of being a receptionist I would have probaby tried to work through things and stayed.

By: Ronnie Ann

Ronnie Ann — Tue, 13 May 2008 18:20:42 +0000

Thanks for the great comment Mr. X!

Although this doesn’t help you right now, you make a good case for setting up boundaries from the beginning. It’s not easy establishing a balance between being helpful and not being taken advantage of – but it can be done.

I wish you luck where you are, and if you do move on, I wish you luck finding a place with a little more balance. Or in helping them find it.

Ronnie Ann

By: Mr. X

Mr. X — Tue, 13 May 2008 16:06:39 +0000

I too used to care about what other people were not doing and getting really frustrated with the whole situation. First off, I’m not their supervisor so I’m not paid to “worry” about their inadequacy.

I’ve bent over backwards for people and the one time you tell them that it is their responsibility, you’re suddenly the “bad guy”. These people have very short term memory. It’s ALWAYS “what have you done for me lately?”

So I’ve learned that you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. I’m still getting used to setting the boundaries as stated above….